Thursday, August 28, 2008

Mel and I.......................

I am still single 2 years after Mel......

......he was MY chocolate.....

i went into that relationship with every intention to just have fun.........

go clubbing,eat out,shows,concerts-name it-we did it.....sleep cuddled in his arms,gbensh(earth-shattering,mind blowing)....,eat,watch movies on the couch all day...he would catch up with work when i was asleep...i always knew when he would slide out of bed......i would walk into the living room to find him buried in his designs(graphic artist)........he liked to go running sunday mornings....every second with him was bliss......

we are both bats......he only takes his(glasses) off to gbensh and bath....

i take mine off in familiar surroundings.........

of them all(lovers i have had-ask Angelina Jolie only 4)...........he is the one man i was ready to commit to...i would have literarily climbed the highest mountain for him.......
yea i know he should have done the climbing........

he would call just to hear me voice he would say.....i had access to his home,friends,sister but not his folks(wasnt looking forwad to access then either).....by the tyme i fell....i fell HARD!!!!

told him i wanted more cos i don fall..he said
**i think i am in love with you too**......

i broke that rule...ladies never say it first they say...
i was past caring......we then pussyfoot around the subject for 8 months
then he comes over to mine-says we need to talk.....we retire for the
night at 10 and talk till 5am.....we didnt even shag...
we had to get up to go to work....

i'm feeling...after this(THE TALK) we would be headed for the altar in a yr........only for dude to disappear from my life........
we hook up 3months later......he needed to clear his head he says.......(i for don know say na lie abi)

we hang out at a jazz concert then head on to his-i'm looking forward to heart stopping boffing..........i'm riding him and i see a card on his wall......a val card......didnt send him one-all i got was a text from him wishing me a great day(it was during his 3 month head clearing session).....and i start to cry-snivelling...tears streaming down......he turns me over to ride me.....he notices the tears just as bright ligths go off in my head......

he cradles me but doesnt ask the reason for my tears....

.........i dont say either......

he calls me two days later and i ask him to loose my number.......

we got together last yr when his younger sister got married......i kept my distance whilst still secretly yearning cos i can draw it(the offending val card) from memory!!!!!!!!!!!!

after the wedding-he came to mine a week later-we talked-said he thought i cried cos he was hurting me-and i asked if he got bigger in the 3 months hhe took to clear his head-so i told him about the card.....he said it meant nothing...i'm sure it did i said...just that the name in that card stared at me amongst the names in the wedding train.......

......u dont have to lie to me i said....i can take it-the truth.....
all u had/have to say is i no love you.......

....he called me a few months back when i changed jobs to say congrats........crazy thing is i still kinda long for him but i've resigned myself to the fact that i cant have him.....but if he calls me up today....tomorrow....next month

....i might go back to them arms......t'was such a perfect fit.........

38 comments:

LG said...

1stttt

Afrobabe said...

2nddddddddddddddddd again..was 2nd on naijalines.....

Afrobabe said...

If he is still single throw ur pride to the dogs and get back to shagging all nite...if not...







help him break the new relationship and get back to shagging all nite!!!!

fantasy queen said...

when u plan not to fall thats when you fall hard...and it sometimes always turns out heartbreaking.

LG said...

hehehehehehehehe@he thought i cried cos he was hurting me, haba!!!! lol

fantasy queen said...

and if you have any sense you wouldnt listen to reason in the voice of afrobabe....(let me whisper a secret in ur ears, shes crazy...sssssshhhh, dont tell them i told u so.

princesa said...

lol@afrobabe!
which kain advice be dat one babes???

Ibiluv dear, love(and lust sometimes too) can make us lose all sense of reasoning.
Ask yourself, is that all you want from him? One night of mind blowing hagging??)If so, then go right ahead. if not, then u gats suppress those urges o,lol!

I know its hard babes.

Meanwhile hope you'll be at the SBR. Check my blog for details.

FineBoy Agbero said...

dis ppl no dey go work? 7 comments already within 11mins?

Ms.O said...

AWWW..I think all girls have that one that they thought was perfect, but wasnt...

doll said...

what can i say?

Naija Idol said...

i rushed here, thinking ill b first. *hiss*

Chari said...

eeeyaaa....na waski o...

miz-cynic said...

i liked the post,....odnt we all have this kind of stories to tell,......well i feel u but ill say lose him.

Miss Definitely Maybe said...

a perfect fit she says....

some jigsaws are best left not completed.

bumight said...

this kinda hurt...just reading it alone.

ablackjamesbond said...

Crazy chic u r. I dont know who is more loonie...u or afrobabe? But me luv u both though...keep keeping it real.

Funms said...

Afrobabe......... she wants more than shagging o.
Im sure u want something more serious and if he's not willing to give u when he comes back, turn the other way

Nine said...

Afro,you have a monorail mind:)

To paraphrase Ja Rule,pain is love?Or is it the other way round?

Toluwa Lase said...

sad! but hey the shagging memories make up for the loss!

lmao @ thot u was crying cos he was hurting u...

Uzezi said...

i have a friend who will call it a rebound. hope this ex wont threaten the real guy o? if it's that way, maybe u shouldn't take his calls. unless its him u want. really want

Shubby Doo said...

I would say shag him but u love him. If he is ready 2mrrw 2 commit & u still want 2 then yes but if not then continue on your path without... With your history u both need 2 b sure cos if he breaks your heart now it might more than 2 yrs 2 recover

Afrobabe said...

Heyyy, you can shag a man until he proposes now....


or does that only happen to me??

naijalines said...

Kinda sad actually. But you seem to sum it up well when you say you've resigned yourself to the fact that you can't have him.

Would a moment of *cough* pure (sweet?) madness take you back 'there' (where it hurts) or not?
Can you risk it? Only you can answer that question.

"he thought i cried cos he was hurting me-and i asked if he got bigger in the 3 months hhe took to clear his head"

...LOL! Priceless.

@ Afrobabe
Which kain advice be that;-)

Twix! said...

My darling, i know how you feel, been there trust me but il advice you to move on. You deserve more. "The one" will come trust me just like he did for me so please loose him

archiwiz said...

Mmmm...pele...I feel you ohh...A card also sealed my decision to break up... He thought I didn't see it...but archiwiz's eyes are everywhere even though she doesn't talk...:)

LOL @afrobabe....Na only pride dey there?

FineBoy Agbero said...

love grows old, shagging does not.

or... shagging grows old, love does not?

i no know o... just follow ur heart jare.

geisha.song. said...

sounds like he's your Kryptonite

Lady Koko said...

I AGREE WITH MS.O......that all girls seem to have that ONE AFRODIASIAC!!!!!!!! WHAT I WANT TO KNOW IS......why did he need 3 months to clear head?
I KNOW..I KNOW..THERES JUST SUMMIN BOUT THE ONE WE ALWAYS GO BACK TO.....funny enuff..our side of the bed is still always waiting for us...
p.s:XOXO

Esmeralda said...

hmmm... it's nice to see the vulnerable side of U Twin. not just the hard i-dont-care one.

what can i say? he doesnt deserve u (cheesy, i know, but there's really nothing i can say is there?)

are u fine darling?

naijaleta said...

I mean no disrespect but why is it that women keep falling for the wrong type of guys?

Free-flowing Florida said...

u & aphrodite date d same guy? see as dem dey behave d same way. but na wa 4 d mel sef!

my dear, fashi abt am o jare. bobo no serious, simple!

Olamild said...

It all depends on what u need


Snuggle on the couch
you place your head on his thighs
he strokes your hair
you kiss his hand
he lifts you up
you sit on him and..........

Yeah it feels good
while it lasts
when it's good, you want more
but is that all there is to love and life?

Do you want someone you enjoy shagging?

OR one
who loves, cares, respects,adores, understands, supports, opens up, and shags u correctly?


It's not about what u want
but what u need.
Sit, think about this situation.
Ask yourself if all you want is mind blowing sex?
When that's done, what's left?

Pray to God
He'll never lead u astray.

stuck in my throat o said...

I love the way you wrote this o...
I so feel everything...
We seem to be twins in this experience...
My advice is ...RUN...because no matter how many times you go back, it will be the same drama...
And my gal, afrobabe is CRAZY!!

ibiluv said...

@lg..hey babes u chanced my sis.........

@afro.....bronze not bad!!!!!!!!!!
......i need more than a good shag sis......

@fantasy queen........tell me about it........

@lg....abi i lie?????

@fq......i know she's crazy...aiint listening to her........lol

@princesa.......not sure when it became love-it wasnt even lust-i just liked shagging him-and i didnt ask for this feelings i had........

@fineboy agbero.....i tire for them oooo....

@ms.o......word!!!!!!!!!!

@doll.......u've said it all babes-no words are needed.....

@naija idol...........lol

@chari.......waski?????

@miz-cynic......he's lost already............

@miss definitely maybe.........found that out 2yrs ago......

@bumight.........MWAH!!!!!!!

@007.....as real as i can be.....

@funms......u read the blog well...my exact thots.......i already did-i turned away 2yrs ago....

@nine.........it shouldnt be(pain is love).....

@toluwalase.....i wish i had more than the memories but i aiint loosing any sleep over this...yea(its not like he got an organ expansion)......lol

@Uzezi....he is my ex and staying so...no rebound here-no one is occupying current...ex isnt even calling.....i'm only remembering **the one** that got away......

@shubby doo.....thanks love......

@sis......some may never propose!!!!!!!
only one sister is allowed all the magic.....

@naijalines......i can always get *cough* from elsewhere where my **emotions** arent involved...

@twix.....lost him already...i moved on 2yrs ago......

@archiwiz.....cards!!!!!!!!!!!!

@fineboy agbero.....i already followed it...thanks......

@geisha.song.....lol.......kryptonite-thats another way to look at it.....

@lady koko....the one i always did return to....i stopped going back 2yrs ago.....

@twinny.....yea i've got some soft in me as well.....i'm fabulous dear....

@aijaleta.....i guess cos life aiint fair.....

@fff......not the same guy-but apparently,both dudes no ready to commit.....i already fashied him i just dey remember am.....

@olamild......i did pray-that is why i let him go-i am only reminising about him.....

@stuck in my throat.....i pass usain 2yrs ago when i ran o-you should have seen me....lol

Tisha said...

k
i understand u long for him
are used to him
i am sad to be saying this
you are a booty call to him
he may marry u
but u can't give him milk
if he's not bought the cow
that is not to say that ladies
are commodities on the market place
what am i saying
raise your market value.

Tisha said...

k
memories like that are dangerous
o
once in a while i have to remind
myself why i mustn't go back to my ex
never shagged him
came pretty close
he knew how to work my engine
if i can call my body that.
so forget him
and wait for the one you can
grow old with.

Omo calabar. said...

Totally agree with afrobabe, if hes single just get back at him. But u gotta do to him what dem other gals havent done. Gotta set urself appart so he knows what hes gonna be missing out if he leaves. Yeah.
lol @ thought i cried cos he was hurting me line

ibiluv said...

@tisha...thanks

@omo.calabar......i dont know if he's single.....i wont ask around........if it is meant to be......it will be.......

if it doesnt happen......someone else is out there......