Sunday, June 29, 2008

Feeler?????????Visualiser?or..........

some people are feelers-they love to touch/grab/hug
some are visualisers-they love what they see
some are audio(cant remember)-they are in love
and are good with words

heard this on *moments with mo* over the weekend
and it got me thinking...........

i like to touch and be touched but i'm more comfortable
commiting all kinds of touchry in private

i like hugs but i'm not prone to giving or taking them freely

i have also been known to act kinda cold in the midst of people

so i have discovered i am not a feeler............

i do like to look at good stuff
but i prefer words.....thats the audio stuff i forgot

i love sms's,mails..sometymes i dont even say all i wanna with
a fone call sometymes cos i can be a very private person

if you call moi at work...i may cut you short
you call me and i am in company of someone....i may cut you short
but while i dont subscribe to 1230-430am calls(except4special people)

my best fone conversations are between 10pm and midnight
then i am relaxed......probably on my bed....uninhibited
thats me at my best....

so the thing is......how do you know which one you are
and which one ur partner/boyfriend/shagger/fuckmate is???

cos the key to a good relationship
is understanding which you are and which he/she is
so you balance it out


wit my first i remember dropping little notes in shoes,shirt pockets,pants,bags,books and while he would
find them later and say thank you,grin at moi
and grab moi....he never did such for me....
after a while i didnt bother no more......
he asked why...i said cos u didnt appreciate it.....
he said he does but he just isnt good with words.....

which brings me to........
just cos a person doesnt love you the way you want
doesnt mean they dont love you with all they have
......

cos the only thing that makes life worth living
is a deep and enduring love
.......


even if for most of us..........
we can only be sure of God's love
and the love of our family..........

but for those of us hoping......s
he/he's out there...........*wink*

13 comments:

Afrobabe said...

hmmm...this post seems to have been written for me...Thx...

Free-flowing Florida said...

i think am a part-feeler, part-visual. i love looking, maybe daz y i've always enjoyed d sight of attractive pple. wen am comfortable with someone, or really feeling 4 someone, i can't seem 2 get my hands off dem. am tremendously affectionate with my limbs. but, if i aint feeling u, pls under no circumstances should u touch me without permission!!!!!!! i've been known 2 get goose-pimples 4rm being touched by 'strangers'.

as 2 ur 2nd point, it's tough o. cos d love language (according 2 some over-yarn book i read) we understand is d one we give out. 2 break it down, if am a toucher, i'd feel loved wen am touched by my partners. therefore, if my partner is not a toucher, but say a smiler (hehehe), i wouldn't feel completely certain of his/her love, cos s/he doesn't touch me!!!!

so, d advise was - each couple should learn how d other person feels loved & practice loving dem that way! also, we should patiently teach our partners 2 love us d way we prefer, while understanding dat they may not master dat act immediately & it won't always come natural 2 dem.

hmmm! long tory bah. believe me, easier said dan done!!!! but, guess it's one day @ a time really.

Free-flowing Florida said...

nice post though, a bit different 4rm ur genre!

rethots said...

Hmmm.....

LG said...

@afro: na una sabi

IB, i think i fall unda all d 3 categories o, lolll or isnt it possible?????
nice post after..........

Enigma said...

I was slow again!!!

I think i've gone through all the stages at different times...but im a jumble of confusion now...

But i agree with you 100% that cos you aint feeling 'his' version of love dont mean he doesnt love you mighty..

(I wonder if i'll ever meet you)

Pink-satin said...

abeg check ur email i havnt received any reply from you!!!!

Smaragd said...

I am all three! i touch a lot and love to be touched (not grabbed),i love to look, love to hear and most of all love to write and be written to! so...

as per that ur Shagger-Shaggee advert ehn, I am just speechless! laffing my head off like crazy! u are a nutcase! luv u still sha... mwah

teediva said...

First time here. Love ur shag-quest post. Do u think some people enjoy sex more than others, or they just haven't been with the right people?

Funms said...

i think im 3 of them..... i agree with ".....doesnt mean they dont love you with all they have......" cuz most times we relate to people with the do unto others as u want them to do to u that we forget that no one is the same. the way i express my love is different from the other person.
If we all understand this concept, a whole lot of conflict will be avoided in relationships....
nice post

ibiluv said...

@afrobabe......sis...anytyme!!!!
box of plantain chips coming up for being first!!!!!

@freeflowingflorida......i concur babe......u change is constant!!!!!

@rethots......wetin u dey hum about??.*wink*....

@lg...its possible to be all three...i say make i tune down....*wink*......

@enigma...u might meet moi/or have met moi...u never know...i have being unable to access comments on ur blog...archi trees remind me of my uni....lovely post u have...everyone has had their *wild*oats.........

@pinksatin......just sent u a mail dear......

@smaragd...love u back dear!!!!!

@teediva....i think some of us enjoy it more than others and i think its cos we are with the right people,we know what to do to give and be given pleasure and we loose inhibitions...cos if a person is frigid even with the best lover...no show!!!!!!!!!

@funms.....i aim to please dearie......MWAH.....

Charizard said...

For the most part I am an audio person, then a lil on the feeler side....cuz I love a good cuddle mehh...ma visuals are terrible though...

to know the other person is jus to oobserve...very well...very very very well

ibiluv said...

@charizard.........nice to know there are different feels to us all..........