Tuesday, May 13, 2008

I have online buddies
people i meet via yahoo chat rooms
or www.whisper2u.com-some i stop communicating with
others i have stayed friends with
a friend of mine dated a guy she met via whisper and they were together 2years
babe was thinking marriage after a while
guy got married a few months after they broke up
(a story for another blog which i dont have details to....*wink*)


a guy called me last year
he said he got my number from a site he hacked/designed to get him a partner
thing is i have two mobile lines
his programme got him the one i hardly use or put on my profile online
how he hacked a number i rarely use is beyond me
we kept up a relationship via phone calls for a while
he kept asking that i leave work on a friday
hook up with him on the island
spend the rest of the night at a club
go on over to his place about 4am somewhere in lekki-he would drive me home the next`day

i just could not understand why he felt
it was okay for me to spend time in such an intimate setting as a club with a guy i know nuthing about-then follow him home............
for all i know

he could be an axe`murderer

he didnt want to meet up in the daytime in a bar,restaurant
he didnt want to make the journey to my abode
(whats it with guys who want to hook up-and they expect the lady to make the trip????)
he kept saying i stay too far from civilisation
while i agree my abode is a distance from lekki
why he thought it was ok for me to make the journey-while he would sit pretty waiting for me
was beyond me...........
he is the one that wanted a mate
shouldn't he be ready to go to any length to get one?????


i lost my phone june last year
forgot about the sim to the number he knew for a few months
after i got a new phone and reactivated the sim-no calls from him
i'm sure he found someone else.........
yesterday i scrolled thru my phone and there his number was........
maybe i should call him........
i am curious...........

why?i know not......
i am not trying to fill a void in my life
i do have loyal members in my fan club
........some i dig......some i dont
some i plan to recruit.............*wink*


on why i did the last post
heard someone say-if she gives in easy
shes not worth it
i dont agree
i do agree with what u all said
sometymes it matters that u dont give in easy sometymes it doesnt
different strokes for differemt folks

i say..............
it doesnt matter who/how/where/when you meet
its what keeps you together that matters..........

19 comments:

Smaragd said...

FIRRRRRRRRRRSSSSSTTTTTT! yes! this has made my morning!
off to read

Adekunle Shobowale said...

The Guy sounds like me.lol
I'm lazy about going to far away places just to find Woman hehehe...
Seriously tho, free the guy.You're simply looking for trouble. Trust me on this one

Smaragd said...

it irks me when guys expect ME to make the trip BUT there are guys i wouldnt even want near my house, so i agree to hook up in a NEUTRAL place like a restaurant.

lol @ axe murderer, u cldnt be more right.

u seem to be on a roll Ibi, three posts in a week!

Free-flowing Florida said...

if u ask me, i wouldn't bother calling him. i love being chased by serious men (even wen they r irritating @ all), but wen a man is just doing 'tunbom tunbom', i no likey.

(¯`·._.·[***Fresh&Fab***]·._.·´¯) said...

ure right, you could have still called him...i guess it wouldnt do any harm

mat=ybe get to know each other some more, b4 making trips

i havent met any1 on line b4 that i keep in touch with, here, they make people understand that the only people online ar killers,lol


have a nice week

tobenna said...

Axe murderes?
Thats a new one.
Quite right on your point though.
If the guy can't you and wants you to meet him at a club then spend the night @ his place...all he wants to do is 'gbensh'

Afrobabe said...

hmmmm this website...I think I'll write it down....

For my cousin!!

Ok, that done.....I would prefer to go to a guys place so if I no longer want to see him he doesn't become a stalker...

Though I think a day time rendevous would be more appropriate...

rethots said...

1st instinct.........perish the thot.

Adventurous thot........keep stringing him.

Which option?
Choice is yours.

Who to blame?
Feel free to cast the blame here.

In My Own Words said...

an adventure with danger signals flashing. he wants u at his place the first time u meet? maybe i'm too old-fashioned or wary of such men. let him be jare or at least meet in broad daylight first.

cool blog.

Nigerican said...

A...freakin...MEN. U said it all hun, it doesn't matter who/ what / when and... i forgot the rest but i totally agree. I didn't wait ... well maybe i kinda did cus hommie lived in another state(been knowing him for years tho). Don't wanna put my business out there but i didn't wait the 1st time he came to visit and i am in the best relationship a woman can have... did i mention he's my soulmate :). before we started dateing

NikkiSab said...

Make ur no private and call
taunt him just for d hell of it. But i tink it was wrong for him to av hacked ur system n get ur no. He may not just b an axe murderer, he could b like dat guy who locks u up and rapes u wen he feels like it and den cut u up in pieces. (my imagination!)

QMoney said...

Arghhh,lets hope he remembers u when u call.LOL
even if u do for d fun of it,4 d sake of ur updates i'd still Like to see.only agree to hook up at a public plaCe such dat even if he slips sumtin in ur drink,carryin u wont be sooo easy so he wnt tink of it actually!!
@nikki,ur imagination was scary!!dont call him again oh abeg!!LOL

ibiluv said...

@smaragd......reserved for u...as u b my twin.......

@adekunle shobowale.......lazy i can understand-not wanting to try i do not....he is free.....

@smaragd.....yea...i prefer when them no sabi my abode too...all fo r u babe.....*wink*


@freeflowingflorida....i just wan know if that method worked for him..........

@freshand fab.......see thats y i likened him to an axe murderer...will keep u posted if i allow my curiosity get the better of me and i call.........

@tobenna.........i do agree thats all he wants to do but what makes him think i am not a lakiriboto(women who dont have a hole down there)........*wink*

@afrobabe.........i like to play it safe too babe........my abode is for peeps...but if/when he agrees to a daytyme hook up in a public place i will stop feeling i wont end up dead somewhere around lekki with missing genitials..........

@rethots.....i never do that(lay blame on others)....all i do is on me...i might call him up......just for laffs.........


@inmyownwords........bless u.....first meet.....daylight......public place....not unless i know i can drop ur contact details at home so my folks know where to come looking for me when i dont pick my calls.........

@nigerican.......totally feel u babe........

@nikkisab...u had to wake up the scaredy cat in me...........

@qmoney.......just playing it safe.........

fantasy queen said...

lol at afrobabe, her cousin indeed.

the guy is forming big boy for u abi? a guy should be able to travel any distance for a date wiht a girl he really likes, shdnt put her on the spot.

i've met a couple of guys from social networking sites ie facebook. they always turn out right thankGod,they've always chased, i've never dated so we end up good friends.

Toochi said...

@fantasyqueen: i might just know one of them :D

ibiluv said...

@fantasyqueen.....if he were really big,he would make the trip.have friends online just sometimes you meet creeps as well

@toochi.......ohhh...u do ehn???

Ms. emmotions said...

No its dont matter how long it takes u to give in really, it dosnt necessarily determine the sucess of the relationship,
i know a couple that are so very in love today n guess wat? they met, the guy asked her out she agreed on the spot and to they they are enjoyin every min of it,

but i say, it matters where u mee, yea, it matters alot....i have my reasons

Uzezi said...

the guy is freaky and freaky guys must be kept ata distance. u r better off without him

ibiluv said...

@ms emmotions.......where you meet?......to each his own......

@uzezi..freaky?i concur...will keep my distance