Monday, February 9, 2009

Do I miss him/it????????

Dealing with grief is hard ..........very hard
especially if the person is a loved one
when i was called about Gramps-all i said was its a lie
a minute later i was packing-heading home
he was gonna be buried in a few hours
but by the tyme i got to my boss to say why i needed to leave
the dam burst.............
i somehow got the words out and made it home
being with people who share your grief can make it easier


its not like he's the first i've lost
there was maternal gramps and gran
but paternal gramps-i spent my formative years with
we were close-it hit me hard
miss you gramps..............*sigh*


asides loosing family
there also friends who have left us
school friends
people we used to work with
acquaintances
neighbours

i believe when they go
its hard for us to take it in
but we must
cos if he/she wasnt meant to go
he/she would still be with us


a house crumbles
5 days later someone is pulled out almost no injury
same building someone who practically landed on top of the debris
who was seemingly ok-dies on his/her way to hospital

a home burns
same home
same circumstances
two people get out
one survives one does not

a plane crashes-one survivor

a car accident-a robbery

so many ways death may come

i have an aunt who says
death is a debt
we all must pay
only thing is
when it comes it comes with some thing

we hear he went to sleep and didnt wake up
or he coughed o-and that was it
he only complained of a headache
he was on a bike o
he was travelling o
na robbers shoot am o
so many scenarios





my wish for us all
that we pay the debt of death in our old age




i've seen one death too many
Dear Lord its too early in the year
to take your children home





PS:how come when i'm asked
do you miss her
all i think of is why miss her
will she give me money????

and if it is-do you miss him????
all i think of is why miss him???
will him give me money?????

but if its an ex
him....................no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
his phallus....oh yesssssssssssss i miss it

29 comments:

naijaleta said...

First time I am first on this blog. Walahi! I never understand your posts. You start on a sober mood, talking about your gramps death or something and you end with missing your ex's phallus. Na wa oh!

Temite said...

sorry dear. Stay strong. I hope he lived a lovely life. I miss phalluses too o, na the phallus I miss the most and I think that is true for most women, they just dont admit it.

Funms-the rebirth said...

sorry dearie......... it is well...... and im sure he was proud of u....
oh btw, i admit, its d phallus i miss too sha..

Buttercup said...

hmmm amen to ur prayer o..and may the payment of our debt be a painless one too!

sorry bout gramps once again..

phalluses.. *sighs*

badderchic said...

be back to read just marking my spot!

Mojisola said...

Sorry about gramps, death is hard to take when its someone you know.

Freaksho said...

as impossible at it seems, you sha found a way to squeeze a penis into this post.
i'm sorry for your loss.
Gramps, not the phallus.

SHE said...

Ah! A debt indeed!

If only death would accept money, or our pleas!!!

LG said...

sorry abt ur gran'dad'
may his soul continue to rest in peace'
@phallu:......only u :)

doll said...

May God give u the fortitude to bear this loss

AlooFar said...

Good gracious! You only miss his (or their) phallus(es).

Sorry about Gramps.

Afrobabe said...

I actually tot u meant miss it as in...u know..

My dear I dont know how to deal with loosing people, I dont at all..I dont even know how to comfort people who have lost someone...do u tell them God loved him more or what??

May his sould rest in peace...

OluwaDee said...

Be stron dear.

~Sirius~ said...

I don't believe you.......heartfelt up until the last line........*hiss, you just couldn't resist it abi?

Now back to serious issues.
Sorry about your granddad.

bArOquE said...

stupid gurl, you miss his phallus, LMHO, you can have mine...sorry about your grief!

CaramelD said...

May your Grandpa rest in peace, Amen.

Muse said...

Death, like you're aunt has pointed out, is a debt we all must pay. I just hope we pay it later, rather than sooner.

LusciousRon said...

May his soul rest in peace and may all his sins be forgiven.

badderchic said...

so sorry to hear about your gramps.

whats with phallus in this post? thought we were being emotional. lol

Smaragd said...

lmao!

only u twinny can confuse naijaleta like this.

i wish i could relate to any of my four grandparents like this (all dead of course), it is touching. Pele.

Jarrai said...

eeya..sorry about gramps...may he rest in peace

lol@ phallus!!...unfortunately they have to carry it go when they leave...

ablackjamesbond said...

'my wish for us all
that we pay the debt of death in our old age'

AMEN to that!

Aphrodite said...

You are just a trip girl!
Silly you...

May ur Granpa RIP.

Sprezatura said...

Perfect way to end it, good to know you can still find humour in sad times. Stay strong.

Chi-Chi said...

God is ur strength!

mike said...

Am very sorry. May God grant you the strength to bear the unrepairable loss. We must pay the debt that's why we have to seek God's face. Deep one. Eya

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SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

may we indeed pay that debt in old age.

Anyway, sorry about your loss, stay strong, my sista.

ibiluv said...

@Naijaleta..Gold for you....mwah!!!!
Life goes on...was missing Gramps then i remembered my itch...

@Temite....he did live a good life...you and me babe...i miss them...*wink*...abi?????you and i are being honest......

@Fums.....He was/is...i'm sure of it....another honest babe....*wink*

@Buttercup....Amen!!!!!!..thanks about Gramps.....about phalluses...*wink*

@Badder.....hurry back....

@Mojisola...some days are easier than others....

@Freak....Bank PHB said impossible does not exist.....*wink*...*sigh-thanks*....

@She...no o-i wont give death money at age 120 but age 21/40/35....e for collect money.....

@LG...thanks...*fluttering eyelashes*

@doll..amen...amen...

@Aloofar...yes o....bobo carry am go...why????....i wonder...Thanks about Gramps...

@Afrobabe.....they suppose dey detach the thing dash us...sometimes your presence is all that matters cos words sometimes wont penetrate a person's grief....amen

@Oluwadee....i am...i am

@Sirius....I COULD NOT!!!!!!!!!....*wink*.....thanks..

@Baroque...send it over..DHL...p.o.x....it is more a nostalgic feeling these days.....

@CaramelD....Amen!!!!!!!!

@Muse.....yea like in our 90's........

@LusciousRon....Amina Ya Allahu........

@Badder.....Thanks...happened Nov 07...was missing him something fierce....the thing dey scratch me.....i'm also emotional about getting laid........

@Twinny......only i..i agree....all 4 i knew and loved/love...lost 3 only one left...thanks....

@Jarrai...Amen....i tire...make dem dey detach am dash us when them wan go....

@007...amen!!!!!!

@Aphrodite.....i am *wink*....amen babes ....

@Sprezatura...i can o-albiet fleetingly...i will..i am..(strong)...thanks...

@Chi-Chi......HE is

@Mike...Merci Bouquoi

@Wordmerchant....i will...mwah!!!!!!

@Solomonsydelle....amen o....i will...thanks